Personality

If you haven’t noticed we’re all different.  A big part of our difference lies in our personalities.   Many of the things we like about people have to do with their personalities.  For instance, some people are bubbly, others are analytical, some pensive, others artsy.  We can be attracted to others by such qualities.  But we can also get irritated with each other based on personality differences.  Some people like structure, others like spontaneity.  Some people’s lack of organization can get on our nerves if we like to be organized.

Many of our misunderstandings, conflicts, and relational challenges are really matters of personality.  Many of us are way too quick to take things personally when in truth the friction between us and others is really a personality difference.

So my challenge to you today is this: if you are struggling with conflict in a personal or work relationship ask yourself if the issue is personal or if it’s personality.  Most of the time people aren’t really out to make our lives miserable.  They just make our lives miserable  unintentionally (and sometimes they seemed gifted to do so).  Often, once you diffuse the personal aspect of a conflict, resolution isn’t far behind.

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